Sunday, February 17, 2013

Day 105 Fish Oil Study

Selah went to church this morning and has had a great day.  She is stable and doing fine.  We are so thankful that she hasn't had any new issues.  I took some great pictures but I"m having issues downloading the pictures! 

Last night watching tv I saw a commercial for abused animals.  Now anyone that knows me knows I love animals.  I have personally rescued about 200 ladybugs from my house and our church, I stop for turtles and get them off the road, I drive around snakes....I rescue cats and dogs BUT....BUT....  I also do not put animals above people.  Watching that commerical made me think of the FACT that there are human beings in situations much worse than some of those animals.  OH MY GOD, I have seen orphanages and I know what I'm talking about.  I've heard first hand from others who have seen far worse things than I have seen....  Isn't a human worth more than a dog?   I think of my Shad in an orphanage so cold that I could see my breath when I went to pick him up.  A boy so malnourished that he cried and threw a fit when we'd leave the restaurant in the hotel.  A child that acted like a trip to the grocery store was better than going to Toys R Us any day!  A child that would store food in his cheeks for months after we came home so he wouldn't run out of food!  I think of my Sarah with a flat head from being kept tied down to a bed with 3 leather straps, a child that is just learning to walk at 6 years old...WHY?  Was it because she didn't have therapy or there was something wrong with her?  No there is nothing wrong with her except she wasn't allowed to make her developmental milestones.  So in the 9 months we've had her, she has learned how to stand, holding on to things, and now is starting to let go, she has learned how to crawl!  And this is without her being in therapy at all or me really working with her, just allowing her space to move around and be free and she has figured it all out herself despite being blind and delayed!  She was a child who weighed 23 pounds at 5.5 years old when we got to the American Embassy doctors for her check up, we're sure she'd gained weight with us the few days she was with us.  did she have something "wrong" with her?  No she just plain out wasn't fed enough.  Selah has just learning to walk at 7 years old when we picked her up, she was also malnourished and had zero Vit D in her system.  Selah who played with strings all day long...was she delayed, yes but once we got her home, she begin to play with toys and understand what they were for.  A little girl with teeth so bad that we had to have 8 pulled and 6 filled.....

That's what ought to tug at our heart strings, that is what ought to keep us awake at night...that is what should bring us to tears......

As Christians we should be "shouting from the roof tops" about this!  We should have our churches mobilized to do something....but sadly enough we don't care....  It's so much more fun to go to some new "revival" or hear some great preacher tickle our ears and tell us how we are "the King's Kids" and how we can have a wonderful life with all our wants and desires met....It's so much easier and fun to buy that new CD or go to the coolest new christian concert....  It's much easier to go and rescue a dog from the pound than to adopt a child....  it's much easier not to think about the plight of unknown children and disabled adults....  What do you think would have been Shad's, Sarah or Selah's future had they not been adopted?  Shad would have had it the easiest but in his culture, not having a family would have forced him into menial jobs, no education....  Sarah and Selah would have died in institutions, that's the bottom line. 

Obviously every child in distress can't be adopted and not everyone qualifies to adopt but if you are a believer you can do something whether it is to consistently pray, to give, or to adopt ....

I believe in adoption, I bacially was adopted by a relative and I"m thankful for her, she saved my life, no doubt.  Children in America need to be adopted, I will never say that they do not....but as I"ve said before, we do have a social care system that may not be perfect, it is not like other countries I've been to.  Yes sometimes it fails in America but when it does, generally someone goes to prison...not so in many other countries.   It is no big deal there...things are so different.  I do take into account life is harder and even the workers do not have all they need to get by but it is still hard to believe how bad things can be for children, for "the least of these" 

That commerical last night just turned my stomach, we need to have our priorities straight!

I bet most of you reading spend more on your cats/dogs/animals than you do on orphan ministry.  I do take care of my pets but I also don't go crazy and treat them like they are human.

This is another post that I'll probably not get too many comments on.  I appreciate all the comments I get on Selah and we do feel the love, please don't get me wrong but a year ago she also was an orphan that no one card about....we had just learned of her existence, there was never any picture of her on the internet or anywhere, it's a miracle we heard of her!  Just so you know there are about 147 million more Selah's out there....  So many children are alone tonight... many that  are adoptable...for others and for disabled adults you can get involved in some type of ministry to try and help the ones not adoptable....

Remember one day we will stand before God for how we treated "the least of these"


  1. You are doing a good job in continuing to fight the cause of the orphan! I tend to do that more on Facebook than my blog. I only post on my blog once every couple of weeks or less often, but I'm on FB every evening after the kids go to bed, so that is where I tend to post about what's happening in the world of the orphans.

    Here is what was happening yesterday in the world of my orphans-no-more: our five-year-old, Katie, pretended that our two staplers got married and adopted lots and lots of baby staples. I don't know what country these baby staples were adopted from, but I'm betting that if I looked on the box, it would say "Made in China."

    Praying for you!

  2. You are so right. We as Christians should be ashamed, if we have not done SOMETHING to alleviate the orphan situation. I am one of the "poorest" people I know, and even I was able, with God's help, to adopt a little baby girl from China many years ago. I consider her adoption, and the making of our little family, the best thing I ever did, other than accepting Jesus as my Lord and Saviour. As little as we have, we try to share so others can be blessed. I am not perfect. I know I could do more. I long to go on missions trips to orphanages, and cuddle little ones. Maybe someday I will...but I can at the very least share my faith and my belief that we are CALLED to care for the "least of these." Once, my precious daughter was one of those "least." Now she is a shining example of a child loved and cherished, serving and loving God, and having a family to love her.

    Don't ever stop "preaching" it, Yvonne! Preach on! The least of these need you!

    Nancy, blessed mama to ShaoXi

  3. I understand where you are coming from. But why assume that it's an "either/or" situation? People do care about children and animals (raising hand). I'm not in a position to adopt a child--we have adopted pets (and are going to adopt a rescue pug asap). But that doesn't mean I don't care, don't pray, or don't try to help. I've made donations to Reece's Rainbow. In fact, I decided that for every quilt I sell this year, I will make a donation to certain organizations--and chose Reece's Rainbow (as well as the SPCA where we adopted our pets).

    Perhaps you've found a ministry calling--to encourage churches--not just your own--to help the orphans of the world? It's one thing to post on your blog, and I'm grateful, because I'm so much more educated and aware thanks to you. But the people in the churches need to HEAR what you have to say! I think you have so much they need to hear, and you obviously have such a heart and passion.

    Every child deserves to be loved.

    Praying for Selah and for all the lost children xoxo

  4. Fully 100% agree and support you. I've said the same thing about those commercials. Yes, animal abuse is terrible and wrong but how much more wrong is it that children are orphaned or sold into slavery and sex trafficking. I stand with you.


  5. I have to say I feel exactly the same way when I see those commercials and when I walk by stores full of 'clothes' for dogs that cost more than I pay for my own.

  6. I share your concern about people caring more about pets than they do about other people. We try to set aside part of our (VERY) limited budget to help feed hungry people in our area. That is the best that we can do.
    Prayers continue, for Selah and for all of you. Love from your friend in north Jersey.

  7. I will leave you a comment. :-) Those commercials make me sick to my stomach too. I agree completely with you.

    Thank you for sharing about where your kids came from. You need to keep shouting - we all do. May the Lord continue to use you to turn others hearts towards His and the orphan.

  8. I honestly believe, if the pictures of the children were shown on TV in the same tender presentation as with the abused animals, there would be a huge response. I had no idea that children were in this terrible plight until relatively recently, when I saw pictures of some of the children on blogs I stumbled upon and when I learned, I did indeed donate from my fixed income and intercede in prayer for them and for parents to come forth. I am confident that MOST people would respond in kind if they even knew about the blogs such as yours, about Reese's Rainbow, etc.

  9. I honestly believe, if the pictures of the children were shown on TV in the same tender presentation as with the abused animals, there would be a huge response. I had no idea that children were in this terrible plight until relatively recently, when I saw pictures of some of the children on blogs I stumbled upon and when I learned, I did indeed donate from my fixed income and intercede in prayer for them and for parents to come forth. I am confident that MOST people would respond in kind if they even knew about the blogs such as yours, about Reese's Rainbow, etc.

  10. Thank you Yvonne for bring the attention forward about these wonderul kids. I pray the Lord allows more orphans into our family...soon. I do care about what you are saying. Can you imagine being alone? I can't and neither should they. Jenny

  11. Thank you for saying this. I, too, believe in being humane and caring for animals - but it saddens me to know how many human beings in other countries are treated far worse than animals... and mostly, this is not talked about.
    Continuing to offer prayers for Selah and your family!

  12. You worded this so perfectly. I started reading your blog because of Selah initially. But now its not only because of her. I feel God used her so I could hear what you have to say. On just a point of what our pastor talked about yesterday, Luke 10:1-12 on how to bring people to Christ. How to share about God. He said just here He tells us how in 5 easy steps. We only got to 3, but those 3 steps hit my heart and I keep getting reminded. Step 1: PRAY, Step 2: GO and Step 3: Develop Friendships with Non-Christians. However we tend to all get stuck on step 1. We just get stuck in this rut of praying for this praying God will send us this, when in reality we need to just GO! That has really stuck with me, and I am trying to GO. Its so true we as Americans get stuck in our own easy lives. Yes it may be hard, but as you said it is so much harder in other countries. I want you to know that every single link you give about a family needing help has been so helpful on pushing me into the right direction on giving. We are not in a place to adopt right now. I want to and I pray that one day I will have a Shad, or a Sara, or a Selah. But for now I know I can do something. I can get past the rut I am stuck in and I can go. I continue to pray for your sweet Selah and for your family. I just want to Thank God for bringing you into my life, even if its just threw a blog and we may never meet. But your words have been a life savor to me and my family. God Bless.

  13. I'll comment because I am totally with you!! I get so mad when I see those commercials and I think exactly the same things. Before Christmas I was in Joann Fabrics and this lady was spending hundreds of dollars on fabric to make stockings for dogs and cats in animal shelters. I wanted to vomit on her. And when I told the story on Facebook I was slammed for being judgmental! I'm all for taking care of animals, but that was just a useless waste.

  14. In my state - the penalty for abusing animals is much more severe than for abusing a child. If you abuse child, you will have a lot of supporters trying to figure what happened in your past to make you do such a thing. But if you are cruel to an animal, you are thrown to the dogs with no one to sift through your history to get you an excuse for your actions.

  15. The thing is, wealthy Americans can afford to pay higher adoption fees than families in developing countries-- or they can collect the amount by fundraising, Either way, adoptions to Americans are more profitable than domestic adoptions, so that's what corrupt facilitators promote-- even if there are biological relatives who are willing to step up and take in the child.

    Also, more birthparents would be willing to keep their own special needs children IF they could afford the surgeries, special education, and therapies their kids needed. The most loving, Christian thing you could do is raise money to support parents in raising their own children. That would stop funding corruption and human trafficking in adoption, with all the associated misery it causes.

    Failing that, in-country adoption is usually more in the best interests of the child than international adoption. Why add having to learn a foreign language and unfamiliar culture to all of the additional baggage that an older child adoption already entails?

    1. You have NO idea of what you are talking about.....

      First the fees are the same for Americans as for any other nationaity. And in most countries the fees are regulated.

      My son was abandoned on a street by his family because they allowed an accident to happen and he lost an eye. There is nothing that can be done for him no surgries necessary but they wanted to get rid of him since he was no longer "perfect" My daughter Sarah's mom refused to touch her after she was born and asked for her to be removed from the room. That was in the court documnets. In many countries there is a YEAR long wait for a relative to step forward to claim the child before it can be listed as adoptable. Plus in many countries there is a mandatory wait period after the adoption to see if a family memeber would come forward. And do you REALLY think ANYONE is breaking down the door of the orphanges in Ukraine or China or Russia or wherever to adopt Special needs children????? I can tell you there were no lines of Ukrianes waiting to adopt our girls!

      I think of all the adopted kids I know and none of them minded learning English to become part of a family...they kinda liked the love and the food that went along with having a family!

      I can tell you my kids are so much better off and happier than they were in their orphanges.....

      You speak/write as someone who hasn't any understanding of the plight of orphans!

      It would be great if the parents would have loved and kept their children if possible. Since I've adopted kids with Special Needs it seems that the child's special need is what caused the parent to give up the child. None of my kids had ever had any type of visit from anyone until we came. Do you really think that they were better off in the orphange??? REally? You need to educate yourself.....

    2. Yvonne,

      Maybe in Ukraine the fees for international adoptions are the same as in-country adoptions. However, this means that fees are set at the level that citizens of wealthy countries can afford far more easily than people who live in that country.

      I know that you-- and several other parents who have adopted special needs children internationally-- love their children and care for them well. But I also know that the rates of disruption and abuse for such children is very high. Nobody should adopt a child out of guilt; that puts an unfair burden on the child to be "appreciative" and "show affection on parents' terms".

      Furthermore, international adoption is an attempt to fix a broken situation-- a child's parents died or abandoned them, the state immured them in an inadequate institution. But that doesn't mean that an international adoption is the only way to fix the situation, let alone always the BEST way.

      There's nothing to be done about how Sarah or Shad's family reacted to their condition now. But in the name of future Shads and Sarahs, what if-- instead of an adoption ministry-- there was a Disability Acceptance Ministry instead? They could learn the language of the country, do public awareness campaigns, and call for more programs and supports for children and adults with special needs.

      Even more-- they could go into hospitals and talk to distraught parents who've just given birth to an "imperfect" child. They could offer education, sympathy, and the practical reminder that doctors ALWAYS give the worst case scenario. They could promise the support and services needed for the parents to meet their child's needs.

    3. I actually have Two sets of friends who do ministry in two different countries to educate and help families keep their disabled children. One couple works in China and one works in Thailand But they can not promise what the country does not have to offer the families. Many countries have little infrastrcuture to even help their non disabled citizens, much less a disabled child

      Many countries have taboos against handicapped people. Ukraine certainly see them like that. Maybe seeing others come and raise the money to adopt a child with a handicap will show them that some people value their lives!

      I don't know if you have ever gone to any of these countries and see how hard life is for the ordinary person either.....

      BTW MOST of these countries allow their citizens to aadopt for FREE! But again you don't see a line of folks standing there to do it! Some will adopt a healthy newborn but neither of our children's files were even looked at by citizens of their countries!!!

  16. Yvonne,

    Re: "...I actually have Two sets of friends who do ministry in two different countries to educate and help families keep their disabled children. One couple works in China and one works in Thailand..."

    Yay for that! :-D

    Re: "...But they can not promise what the country does not have to offer the families..."

    If it's possible to fundraise such large amounts to adopt a single child to another country, why isn't it possible to raise sufficient amounts to "sponsor" that same child, in the same manner as the Save the Children campaign? If not with the birthparents, perhaps with kinship adoption or other in-country adoption?

    Re: "...BTW MOST of these countries allow their citizens to aadopt for FREE!..."

    Er... wasn't that the point I originally raised with you about adoption agencies preferring the more lucrative route of an international adoption to placing a child in-country at a net loss?

    Re: "...neither of our children's files were even looked at by citizens of their countries!!!..."

    If they never saw their files, how could any Ukrainian couple select them?

    But I agree that you can't create a willingness to adopt a child who'll never be able to live independently where none of the entitlements and legal rights American citizens take for granted exist. So how about this: If the Disability Acceptance Ministry can't persuade the biological parents to take home the child, even with offered charitable assistance, they can encourage them to make a plan to place the child for adoption (not necessarily to America, but not excluding that option).

    This SHOULDN'T be pressed on them, and they should be encouraged to think long and hard about it before making a decision. And the offer of financial assistance should remain open should they change their mind and want to raise their own child. But I think if you can't or won't parent your own child, that making a proactive plan to place them with loving parents is more moral than allowing them to stagnate in a low quality institution. I've read that there are 300 American parents on the waiting list for a child with Down's syndrome for every newborn with Down syndrome released for adoption in the U.S.

    Mind you, there is a LOT of corruption and lying in adoption today, in our country as well as many others, and we need reforms to make sure that adoption is transparent and accountable both domestically and internationally. Birthparents need to know that the parents who are cleared for adoption actually ARE psychologically and financially stable as their home studies proclaim them. Adoptive parents need to be confident that the information in their children's files is accurate-- and to have the training to KNOW what caring for this child is likely to entail. And adoptive children need the right to see their original birth certificate at age eighteen if they so request.

    I'm not anti-adoption-- I'm pro-ethical adoption, with honesty all across the board.

    1. I agree with you that it would be the very best for a child to stay with their parents and be loved and taken care of....but that is NOT going to happen.

      Do you understand WHY none of my kids were picked to be looked at???? It is NOT because they were not able to be seen. Both of my girls were on the offical Ukriane website that lists children eleiagble for adoption IN COUNTRY to the citizens of U. But they were never looked at because no one wanted a child with their kinds of disablities.

      No one made any of the parents give up their children. My son was given up and left on the side of the road. No one was telling the family to do that they chose to do that.

      And just so you know the actual fees that are paid....most of it is travel related, and there are so many didfferent fees that go to different people's not like any one person is makeing a ton off of the adoption. China used to ask for a $3000 "donation" to the orphange now I do think it is higher . Ukraine there are so few fees that go to the goverment, I'm thinking back over the fee schedule and more actually go to the USA govt than to the Ukraine goverment. Yes in both countries there is a facilator who has fees but they are not extremely high.

      In most countries that I know of, the citizens have the first choice of children to adopt and are encouraged by their goverments to adopt. But you have to face the facts, there are taboos and social norms that do not accept handicapped kids or often girls...