I could not believe the nerve of that woman!
Now I know there are cases of child abuse in the country. This whole subject has been on my mind lately because of various stories in the news.
This whole summer we have been inundated with stories of parents who have left their children in cars and forgotten them. Then there has been a couple of stories about kids playing in parks without their parent's supervision like this story http://www.worldmag.com/2014/07/is_leaving_a_child_to_play_alone_at_a_park_criminal_neglect
There was a story of a mom in Florida who allowed her 7 year old to walk to the park and play alone and she was also charged.
I'm in my late 40's and based on the above stories, my family, Jon's family, every one of our friends' families would have all been locked up in jail!
Now I never got a spanking but I should have and it would have been better than the punishments I got which consisted of me being shamed for everything and empty threats. Jon on the other hand had his tail whipped many times. One time on vacation he and his younger brother got 'switched' they had marks on their legs for a few days. BTW, his daddy was a school principal at the time! All of my friends got spankings or whippings from their parents and at school too!
When I was in 2nd grade, I often went home with a friend on the bus. Her parents owned the local car dealership and worked so we were free to roam the neighborhood. We even took a small pontoon boat out by ourselves. CRAZY! Jon began walking home from school by himself at some point in elementary school and it was quite a long walk. I can remember being dropped off at a city park to play while my aunt shopped. In elementary school I started going to another friends house so we could skate....ON THE ROAD!!!! LOL We also went to a lake and swam...with alligators all around. Can you imagine? The thing is we didn't think anything about it!
We also rode without seat belts and in backs of trucks. We licked the bowl clean from cake batter. We played outside all day long....the list goes on and on.
Now would I allow my kids to go to a park alone or do any of the above stuff? NO! Steve is lucky he can get out of the house alone at 18 LOL BUT that does not make me think someone else should be criminalized for doing something that would not have even raised eyebrows 40 years ago OR even today in other countries.
Do I let Shad go off with friends like I did? No but I am not going to fault a parent who does.
There are many times I worry that I make my kids more fearful because of the rules and limitations we place on them. Obviously we love our kids and want the best for them in every situation. I'm a worry wart and that is probably not healthy. In fact I keep most of it to myself so I don't end up in a mental ward somewhere!
BUT what bothers me the most is that our country is becoming a "nanny country" basically telling people exactly point by point how to raise their kids. That should alarm everyone! Children don't have the childhood we did, playing outside because people are so fearful.
The Christmas right after Steve turned 16 years old, I had the boys with me. Sam and Shad had both fallen asleep in the van and I was running into a Best Buy to buy something. I left all three of them in the van, with the music playing. It was cool outside, maybe sweater weather, really comfortable. It was about 5 pm, still light out. I parked in the handicapped parking and told Steve he could come in with the boys if they woke up. All I did was pick up something and was in line when a female police officer came in the store. She had me paged, well I was right by the front of the store. I went up to her and she began yelling at me for leaving my kids in the car. I told her that Steve was 16 years old and old enough for a driver's license. He could legally drive the kids somewhere so why couldn't he watch them while I went in the store? Plus Steve is not a small guy, it would be unlikely that someone would try anything on them. I believe the van was locked and I had the keys. She became very angry with me and I complained to her supervisor who apologized to me!
Sure we want our kids to be safe but come on......
Is the world a scarier place now than it was 40 years ago? I really do not think so. We HEAR about things more than we did back then but everything happened back then as it happens now. There were sexual offenders, serial killers, kidnappers, child abusers....it all happened back then.
There is always a balance to be found. When I look back at some of the things I did....I wonder how in the world am I still here! None of the things above would I ever ever ever allow my kids to do! But I don't think the government should step into a family's situation until there is a real cause to do so.
Where did common sense go to?
While I'm on the topic of common sense......I'm in a discussion on FB on WHY in the world this country would bring back the doctor/missionary with Ebola! Yes the person is a wonderful person but I would think that common sense would tell us that we should not potentially expose the USA to Ebola just to treat one person. The person knew what he was getting into when he signed up to go. Yes I sympathize with the family but I think this is wrong. I KNOW hospitals and I know mistakes happen, people get lazy and germs get spread. I'm sure they will probably contain it but I doubt that we will get through this without seeing others infected there in the hospital. Most of my friends disagree with me but hey what's new??
Ok after my rant......something funny.... Steve is feeding our friends animals (barn yard included) while they are gone. So yesterday after we finished up at Habitat for Humanity we went by their farm. As we were leaving we saw about 50 vultures around a herd of cows. Steve and I looked at each other, then looked at the cows but they were on the other side of the field. A field that has an electric fence. I said it looked like there was something coming out of one of them ....HAHAHAHA! I was so shocked it didn't make sense. We were afraid one of them had died on our watch. So we went around to another small farm and went up their drive to get closer to the animals and by that time the "thing" had gotten out and there was a baby calf!
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