***As far as our "normal biological son" Steve goes....he is an Unspoiled, caring, responsible young man. Being the oldest to the other four has been the BEST thing that ever happened to his character in my opinion. He has experienced things that most 18 year olds have not, some things have been gut wrenching sad, but he has reached inside himself and grew in situations. He has seen the "silver lining" in the clouds of life.
Our adopted "normal" son Shad also has a heart that has learned to love, he has seen commitment acted out in front of him I believe that seeing how we love our kids makes him a more secure child and will help him as an adult. He has seen the lengths we have had to go to at times to take care of the kids and I believe that lets him know what we would do for him if it were necessary.
Steve & Shad will have different responsibilities as they grow older because of the three younger children but is that such a bad thing? I think NOT! I think some of the problems of the world today is lack of commitment when times get tough.....