Wednesday, May 16, 2018

Mother's Day 2018


Hello from the Clanton family!
I am still fighting with this new MAC....I absolutely hate it with my whole heart.  It's such a pain in so many ways.  Tonight, with help, I figured out how to put pictures on my blog.  Not at all easy if you are wondering...way too many steps for me.


We've been busy as usual around here!
All four of the younger ones just went to a new dentist who specializes in kids with special needs.  It took me years to get in with this dentist and I am thrilled.  We were in a practice that would not even see Selah and really resented me making them see Sam and Sarah.  I got a little crazy with a dentist once LOL . If you ever read that I"m in jail- please take it seriously-it'll probably be true!!!!

Sam Sarah and Selah had perfect teeth!  No cavities or much build up.  This dentist just blessed us so much by actually telling us "thank you" for giving them such good care.  I was almost in tears.  As a parent of special needs kids, there are so many things you do that no one really sees or thinks about.  Brushing teeth is one of those things.  It's a pain, neither Sam or Sarah can spit so it's alot of work to really clean their teeth.  The nurses work on Selah's mouth care continuously because having a trach, she keeps her mouth slightly open all the time which is awful for her teeth  and gums!   But to have a doctor pat you on the back like he did, made it all worth while.  He told us some horror stories of special needs kids he had seen over the years and that makes him appreciate the ones who do what has to be done daily to avoid issues.  Jon and I along with her nurse felt very encouraged by the kind words of that man.

Having to do all of their personal care is taxing now as they are getting older and bigger.  It's challenging to be out with them and have to change a diaper.  We have to brush their teeth, give them baths, change diapers, dress them, feed them....   when I get physically tired, I always push through because I think "what if our roles were reversed?",   I'd want good care by a cheerful person.   With our nurses and our respite care worker - they are the same- they care about the kids and want to do the best for them.  



Sam and Sarah have started horse therapy.  Their teacher is a Physical Therapist which is wonderful.  Sarah is going twice a week and Sam goes once a week.  We are concentrating on Sarah in the hopes that it will help her to walk.  

Let me see if I can explain why hippo therapy is so important for a child with gross motor skill delays....    Sarah can "walk" .  I can hold her hands and she will move her feet but they tend to cross and turn.  She can also hold a walker and do the same.   Some time ago I felt that that kind of therapy - trying to teach her to walk- was really just reinforcing terrible walking habits that did not lead her to really walking.  Oh I went along with therapy because I didn't really know what else to do.  I hoped it would help but she never really progressed past a certain point.  I had thought of hippo therapy but did not have any contacts or way to get it paid for because our insurance would not cover it.  Then the little ones became eligible for the Gardiner Scholarship (a Florida based scholarship for homeschooled kids with handicaps)   It covers their therapy.  

Now to try and explain why this type of therapy is different....  basically a horse's movement mimics the way humans walk.  So by Sarah sitting on a horse as it walk, that horse is moving Sarah in the exact way she is supposed to move to walk correctly.  It's causing her to react neurologically and physically in a way that using a walker absolutely never ever would.   Especially since she is blind, she can "feel" it even though she can not see it.  

Sarah is very unique.  She has absolutely no cerebral palsy or brain damage.  Sam has both yet he can walk.  Sarah just has a low IQ and is blind.  That's it...no chromosomal  abnormalities either unlike Sam.  Most professionals are stunned that Sarah can not walk but all attributed it to her first five years of being in an orphanage.  We don't know how she was treated in the baby house but she was in an adult mental institution when we got to her and was kept tied to a bed by three little leather straps.....  Nothing was being done to help her learn and she missed many important milestone times of brain development.  

Sam on the other hand has CP, brain damage and chromosomal abnormalities and yet he can walk.  But he had therapy from the beginning and a family working hard with him.    We are hoping that Sarah will catch up.  She loves physical activity.  She absolutely loves being on the horse, she smiles almost the whole time.  


This will also be good for Sam in many ways.  Although he walks, this will give him more confidence plus it's supervised PE (physical education) . It will address his poor posture and tone.  Also he will learn how to follow directions and so many other things.  

Ive recently heard of a new therapy place in our area for OT and Speech.  We are also on the wait list for ABA therapy (Applied Behavior Therapy).  I'm always looking for things to enrich their lives.










That smile!



She looks like a little horsewoman!




They love the movement but not the horse.  Neither of them really care about touching the horse except for the signal "to go" .  My kids are anti animal LOL  Both of them despise the new rescue kitten.  The kitten loves everyone and wants to go to Sarah all the time.  Sarah flinches and pulls away.  The kitten is so tiny we have to really watch it around the kids, we are afraid one of them will accidentally hurt it.  We try and keep it in Shad's room but that kitten has a set of lungs on it!  It cries and cries.  



Sleepy Sarah



This is how my big girl sleeps on my lap :)



Last week was SIX years home for the girls!
This picture was taken at Tampa International Airport on 5/9/12
Sarah was wearing a size 12 months and weighed 19 pounds at 5.5 years old





This picture was taken in our living room on 5/9/18
Sarah is wearing a size 12 girls and weighs 70 pounds!  
6 years made a big difference!!
(Yes she got a hair cut today!!!)






Mother's Day 2018
I feel so blessed!
I love this bunch







My Life.... I love them!



Next week Steve leaves for Haiti!  Please pray for him and his team.  Thank you all for your gifts to him!  We were shocked this past Sunday by a large gift given to both of the boys for their mission trips from a reader in Orlando!  THANK YOU!  They were amazed & encouraged.  
Steve is also taking a ton of supplies for the orphanage with him . We have to work on his luggage tomorrow and see how we will fit it all in.  I'm lucky I have a friend who is a Crazy coupon lady!  she gets me great deals for my various projects.  This time we focused on vitamins, toothpaste, band aids and bar soap.  It is a great feeling for me to get things together for the children.  

As a mom-it makes me extremely nervous for him to fly to another country without us!  But I know this experience will be defining for him and also for Shad when he goes to Miami for a week and El Salvador for a week this summer.    But it's hard for Mama!


Sam enjoying his lunch!



We've had alot of concerns about Sam this whole year.  It started in January when he got a light case of the flu.  Since he had had his flu shot- he didn't get really sick but with in a few days his bowels shut down.  That ended up in two trips to the hospital and a stay plus several trips to the doctor.  He also had a very serious issue with his immune system.   Despite our best efforts, he has continued to have some issues.   

He also struggles a few times a year with extreme bouts of sadness.  During those times he will bit his hands and arms.  He went through a terrible time of it back in April.  It follows a predictable pattern-there is no rhyme or reason why it happens or what causes him to come out of it.  

A few weeks ago he began coming out of it and we were relieved.  Then he went into such a lethargic stage that I was convinced that he was dying.  He had absolutely no other symptoms- and i called our pediatrician several times to let him know what was going on.  It was so scary.  He was still eating and drinking but almost like a robot.  Nothing made him happy or even sad!  He'd just sit beside one of us without interacting.  

I tell you what on Mother's Day I woke up with him in my bed, I was afraid for him to be alone, and I could have cried.  I took a shower and had to hold in my tears because i was so concerned about him.  But there was NO symptoms we could point to....  his bloodwork was perfect, just a few weeks ago cardiology had cleared him and said they no longer needed to follow him, he had just had a multi organ ultrasound study and everything was perfect.... The only thing was he still was not 100% normal in his bowel movements but it wasn't terrible just not normal since he got sick in January.  Our pediatrician had put him back on a stool softener and a vegetable based laxative but there were occasions I had to give him enemas.  Sam eats a very healthy diet and loves vegetables- any type of bean is his friend so he's never had this issue before!  

Anyhow we all got ready for church.  I asked for Sam to be mentioned in prayer.  My husband prayed for Sam with the other requests of our parishioners.  But as the prayer ended a friend of mine spoke up and said that she felt we should have special prayer for Sam.  The church came around Sam and prayed for him.  And with God as my witness, Sam began to act more like himself from that point on....    We went out to eat and he was interacting with us.  It's Tuesday night and he is in bed but these last few days have been wonderful.  He's back 90% to the old Sam!  We are all paying alot of attention to him and he has his big brother home so I know that helps but I truly believe God heard the prayers for him and gave me a Mother's Day present by helping Sam to reconnect more with us, his toys and to find joy again.  Please keep him in your prayers!  

Parenting our little ones has its challenges that just break our hearts at times.  Before my little ones, I knew that "this world was not my home- I'm only passing by" but now the Hope of Heaven has so much more meaning to me as we face challenges along with our children.    I am honored that God has given them to us by birth and adoption to be with them through their lives and to see that they are cared for and loved.  

I wish I could be some positive idiot that never worried about the future but it is scary to me.  I pray alot.  We have things set up as best we could and I'm thankful that we were able to have some things in place for them.  But there is only so much we can do now for the future for them.  There is just alot of having to trust God for their futures....and for our older boys' futures too.  Don't you wish you could protect your kids from everything and make all the important decisions for them?  It doesn't quite work out that way....

Well I will try and continue to learn this $#@%&!! MAC!  I dread dealing with it!  


Monday, April 30, 2018

Kitty Rescue



So I'm still mad at my laptop & still trying to figure out how to use a Mac.  It's very annoying!   Did I tell you WHY I had to get a new laptop???   A certain young man downloaded a virus while playing a video game during school time..... Yep.....I'm still mad.  There was no way to save it and not worth the money to try.  But the Mac is set up so securely that it is impossible to do that now for that young man!  And his older brother's Mac is set up with this one and his older brother can see everything that is done on this Mac!  I still love that young man but I was not happy with him.


Yesterday we had a big day at church.  Following the service we had a surprise birthday party for a lady in our church.  Our oldest son and some of his friends came which made me happy since they are starting finals this week in college.  When we finally got home, Shad heard a cat screaming.  He found a tiny kitten who had gotten it's foot caught in a fence.  The kitten didn't look old enough to be climbing a fence but he was hanging upside down with one of his legs caught in between two pieces of wood.  I held up his body so he wouldn't be under so much strain.  It was easy to tell this was a wild kitten!  I was pretty sure it was going to tear up my arm.  Shad ran and got my phone and we called the Fire Deptarment.  They came and had to use a crowbar to get the kitten free.  Of course then we were stuck with a kitten!  We did ask some neighbors who have some cats and they thought it might be their cat's kitten but were happy for us to take it!  The kitten does not know how to eat so we are having to feed it every few hours with a syringe.  Shad has been a good kitten daddy.

It amazes me how we find cats to rescue.  Even when we were in Ukraine we found kittens at a bus stop that we saved and found homes for them!  We are back up to 9 cats.....  I find homes for some then I find more....  I am NOT a Cat hoarder- I'm perfectly happy to share the love.  If anyone is looking for a little brown/black kitten - you can come and get it!

I'm trying to post the kitten's picture but having technical difficulties !


Sunday, April 15, 2018

I Love A Rainy Night



Sitting on the back porch as a storm rolls in is a balm to my soul.  Right now it's pouring and our crazy Lab puppy is gleefully running around the yard trying to catch the rain in his mouth.  Everything is green and fresh.  The wind is blowing and the rain is falling on the metal roof.  Dusk is falling.   It really doesn't get any better than this.....

You know what one of my greatest worries is?  That in heaven there will be no rain and no night!  I can not imagine an eternity without rain or night time.  I love both, and if I'm lucky enough to get a rainy night the just fills my cup up:).   All those old songs about heaven talk about unclouded days and no nights and no storm clouds... maybe the would make some folks happy but not me!  Of course I love cloudless blue skies too - I'm actually pretty easy to please about the weather but my favorite time is when it rains.  And I love the night...the night out in the country is very quiet, usually the frogs and crickets are going to town making their noise but that's ok with me.

I do love to see the night sky on a clear night.  I remember as a teen going from my home town to an even smaller town about 25 miles away, where my best friend's dad owned the movie theater.  I'd help out at the concession stand with my friend.  Sometimes on the ride home, on dark country roads, her crazy brother would turn off the car's headlights.  We'd stick our heads out of the windows and stare up at the stars.  Life was so good.  I miss that  (and for the record I'd absolutely kill one of my boys if they did that!!!!   Somehow we are all still alive and well in our 50's and 60's -how the heck can the be? LOL. We all got together recently and I thought about all the foolishness that we all participated in throughout our earlier years LOL. I was only involved in a little bit for the record!  Sadly!  If I had life to do over I'd probably be more involved!)


I'm seriously considering booking a trip for me and my husband to a campground in the middle of the Everglades.  It's supposed to be one of the best places to see stars in all of the Southeast.   Of course I'm sure the mosquitoes would be big enough to carry us away!  I hate putting on spray- every single brand I've tried has made me nauseous.  I've tried everything including natural junk-obviously I have some kind of allergy.   Anyhow even if it's rainy, I figure we'd enjoy being so far out in the woods.

So night is falling, the crazy Lab is still running in the rain.  We've had for over a month-I guess she is actually going to be a keeper although after she destroyed our front porch screen door and all my plants I had found a home for her!  But at the last minute I decided to keep her.   The screen door was fixed and all my plants were too for the most part.  She absolutely loves to run in our yard.  Evidently the person who had her lived in an apartment-I can not imagine her in an apartment.  She is a big goofy happy dog.  But she has so much energy it's crazy.  She is really doing good at being trained.  Most of the time she obeys me.  She tries so hard to become friends with the cats, it's hysterical to watch.  They do not like her, although three of them are learning to tolerate her.  She is an outdoor dog, she has her own doghouse under our carport right by Selah's window.  We have a fenced in yard including security cameras so she is safe.  I'm not a "big dog in the house person" especially as my little ones can't see nor do they understand boundaries.  It would not be safe.  Actually all three of the little kids do not like animals at all.  I've tried them so many times but they just do not care for them.  It's crazy that our kids don't like animals as they've been exposed to them so much.  Anyhow I would not risk their safety or the dog's safety-I can't alway have my eyes on everyone every second.  Shad usually takes her jogging every day and once Steve is home from college he will too.  That'll help her tame some energy.  She's a good dog with a sweet personality.

So I got a new computer, a MAC and I'm just trying to learn it.  My son assures me I'll evidently love it...not so sure about that.  My old computer had traveled all over the world with me.  It was more than 6 years old.  I got it for $200 on a special sale before we went to Ukraine so I guess I got my money out of it and then some!

Well I'm going to go and enjoy the rest of this nice rainy night.  Hope the weather is nice where you are at tonight!

Monday, March 26, 2018

Mission TripS









This summer is going to be a busy one for our family!  Our two oldest boys are going on mission trips!  I may need a prescription for Valium or at least be praying A LOT!

Steve is going to Haiti with Southeastern University in May.  They will be doing orphan ministry in several orphanages.  One of the orphanages is for very special needs kids.   He is looking forward to this trip because he knows what a little extra attention can do for children.  He is hoping to take his video camera (a real professional one) and do some promos for the ministries he will be assisting.  He hopes to be able to show the supporters of the ministry the needs of the kids and what their giving does to help them..  So he will be using his skills as a videographer & the skills he has learned with his little sisters.  The rest of the summer he is hoping to work full time.  Steve will be graduating in December- a semester early!!!

In July Shad will be going to El Salvador on a missions trip.  He will be working with career missionaries from our denomination.   He will be assisting in door to door and street ministry.  This is something he does on a regular basis at home.  Since January we have been going door to door in our neighborhood and giving out packets and inviting people to church.  Shad is very bold and never gives up (even when I want to lol)  Our neighborhood is rural so we have made it to about 400 homes thus far.  That's probably equal to 20 miles worth of walking!!!   Recently we drove through a more suburban area of our small town and Shad said with great awe in his voice "it would be so easy to do door to door here- there are no fences and the houses are so close" LOL   He also will be going to Miami Fl for a week outreach to the homeless and will be doing street ministry.  It's cool to me because when I was in college I spent one spring break week in Miami doing street outreach!  I think he will even be staying at the same church we stayed at!     Shad also will be going to youth camp for a week.  He is going to be a world traveler this summer!

Often I've wondered how effective mission trips are - but I know from my own experiences that it is a time for the person who is going to learn more and often (and my case and my husband's and many others) leads to a career path of missions and helping others.  Plus you never know how effective and life changing it can be for the ones ministered to.  It's eye opening for young people and time and time again I've known of people who committed to a life time of service after going on a trip.   As hard as it would be for me not to be physically close to my children in the years to come, I'd be honored if God called one of my boys into ministry/missions work.


So if you'd like to help our boys raise their funds We all would really appreciate it!
Steve has already raised all but $600 for his trip.  Shad needs about $1300 for El Salvador and $245 for his Miami trip.   If you are interested in giving please send a check to
Grace Church
7060 Berry Road
Zephyrhills Florida 33540
 Mark on it clearly that it is for their trip and you can specify which boy if you'd like to.


But above all please pray for our boys.  It is not an easy thing for me to send my kids off believe me!!!  Please pray for their protection as well as the teams they will work with. 

Thank you all!!!

Monday, March 19, 2018

The People of Perry Documentary











This is the video that my son and his small production company did last summer in my hometown.  Steve was teh producer and worked the cameras also.  I am so very proud of him!!!  Please watch and share!!!



Tuesday, March 6, 2018

All kinds of new things!




Look on who made it back to church!  this was the first time he'd been out of the house except to go to the doctor for 7 weeks!  He still is having issues getting his tummy back in order and is on some stool softener and laxatives.   We are working hard on decreasing the amount of meds as we know his belly needs to get back to work on it's own.  









 The other night Shad and I were out walking/running the new dog...pictures to come... and I took these beautiful pictures.  It was amazing! 
What else was amazing is one of my neighbors saw me and then sent me a message the next day to tell me that she had spotted a Florida panther  down by the river less than a mile from my house and only about a quarter mile from where I was walking!!!!  WOW!   At least I enjoyed the night!!!


















Oh Lord!  Am I crazy or what?  Last week I got a call about this girl.  She is a  refugee from Puerto Rico.  She got sent here and a lady adopted her.  The lady lived in an apartment and the dog is not an apartment dog!  LOL  So I agreed to take her after talking with my husband.  He was gung ho  about her but you know who does the hard work right?   It took a few days for us to come up with a name but we named her Molly.  

Molly is a handful to say the least but she is sweet.  She's learning commands already.  We were told she only knew Spanish LOL  She is crate trained which is wonderful.  We have a huge crate that she sleeps in under our car port. We are planning on transitioning  her to a doghouse but want to make sure she won't go out the fence at night.   She hasn't tried to dig or jump the fence which is good.  Our Lab Brownie was a wonderful dog but she loved to dig!  Molly is way too excited  to be around the little kids yet.  We are really working on her not jumping up.  She has scratched all of us and knocked me down once. 

I need to take some videos of her and the cats-they have firmly put her in her place :)  

We have tried several times to find a dog for our family.  We had Brownie for many years, she was 16 years old when she died.  We just have not been successful with dogs since then.  We have been able to find homes for the dogs that didn't work out with our family thankfully.  It takes a special dog to be around my little ones.  I think Molly may work out but she is still a puppy- a 50 pound strong excited puppy .....   








Sam and Sarah got a lovely gift from our local Lion's Club yesterday!!!
The Lion's Club gave them a new swing set!  It's 8 foot tall and came with 4 swings.  We replaced two of the swings with the kids' swings they got for Christmas for now.   We are going to put a foot of mulch under the seing set, so it's not quite finished. and that's why the seats look so high.  
This swing set will be something they can use well into adult age.  Sam and Sarah both crave swinging.  - it meets their Vestibular movement needs.  

Vestibular ,movement  is necessary for us all but especially for kids who are vision impaired. 



http://www.asensorylife.com/index.html




From the website above

The Power of Vestibular input

Vestibular input (movement and balance) is critical for brain development beginning in utero. Then after birth, it is how we calm infants and also how we make them smile and giggle. We rock them, bounce them, swing them, and sway them. All of this movement is doing a whole lot more than putting them to sleep or making them smile. It is creating a foundation for the brain and development. This need for movement continues throughout life and is especially crucial in the developmental years, but it is essential throughout our lives to support self-regulation.

Key Points on Vestibular Input and How to Make a Difference

  • Everyone should have the opportunity to get up and move every 15 minutes. Even just a quick stretch is beneficial. 
  • Inverting the head is very powerful and an excellent tool for a quick dose of vestibular input. 
  • Fifteen minutes of swinging can have a 6-8 hour effect on the brain.
  • There are 3 vestibules, all which detect and process different planes and directions of movement: back and forth, side to side, rotary, diagonal, and vertical input. It is important to incorporate all of these planes of movement, but allow rotary input only in controlled doses.
  • Vertical vestibular input (bouncing and jumping) is typically the most accepted form of vestibular input and is very regulating and organizing since it also involves a great deal of proprioception. 
  • Whenever possible, offer options besides sitting in a chair…lying on the floor propped on elbows, standing on a balance board, standing on a BOSU ball, sitting on a ball chair or T-stool, etc.
  • Spinning needs to be limited and supervised. This can be very disorganizing for the brain and can cause delayed sensory overload and dysregulation. Monitor spinning and limit to one revolution per second and a maximum of 10 revolutions, then switch directions. This is referring to single point axis spinning. 
  • Respect a child’s reaction to vestibular input as it can be very powerful and cause a systemic reaction such as nausea, a headache, flushing of the skin, and even a low grade fever. Stop means stop if the child has had enough. Watch closely for signs of sensory overload, especially if the child is unable to verbally communicate.



Thank you Lion's Club!  I know Sam and Sarah will have many years of enjoyment on this swing set!!!!!  I'll post again when we put the mulch in!

Friday, March 2, 2018

Nolan







https://reecesrainbow.org/1377/nolan117

Boy, Born September 2004
Nolan is such a handsome boy!  He needs a loving family!
Listed: August 4, 2010
From his medical records:  long-term effects of some early trauma (right-side hemiparesis), mild mental delays, seizures, flat feet, farsightedness
He has fine motor skills, understands everything, he talks but it is hard to understand him.  Nolan is very physically active, happy and cooperative, friends with other children.   A family living in the states who has 3 children, one who is significantly disabled, has taken a special interest in Nolan but cannot add Nolan to their own family due to the needs of their children. Per the family, “Nolan’s eyes and smile caught our heart. He is close in age to one of our own children. We hope this gift will enable someone to give Nolan the chance to live outside an institution.”
A family must have a completed homestudy to commit to Nolan.  Due to the size of Nolan’s grant, 50% of grant funds will be available upon receiving a travel date, and the other 50% upon passing court.
Nolan has a grant of $19,597.50 available towards the cost of his adoption!



This was written by a family who had hosted him and wanted to adopt him.....
(hosting is a program where the child can come to America for a few weeks with the hope of meeting a family who will adopt him/her


Friends...
As some of you know, we were going to adopt Nolan. HE ONLY HAS 2 YEARS BEFORE HE IS TOO OLD! ALSO: WE DON'T KNOW HOW LONG INTERNATIONAL ADOPTION WILL BE ALLOWED. He is an orphan with very mild special needs who lives in Ukraine. In fact, we had spent many thousands of dollars to do that, but some bad things happened financially. HIS ADOPTION IS FULLY FUNDED! YOU WILL JUST NEED TO PAY TO HAVE A HOME STUDY AND FILE A USCIS FORM AND BE FINGERPRINTED! We're in a lawsuit with a Chinese factory who committed fraud against us and I don't really know what will happen to my family right now, as essentially, they stole so much, we are actually thinking of buying a cheap RV to live in with our 4 kids as a back up plan. I hope that gives you some idea of the magnitude of what we're going through. I hoped this would all get settled fast, but right now, I just want to know that he is not going to be left behind.
I tell you this ONLY because many of you also know that we hosted him and I don't want anyone to think that we backed out because of him being difficult or anything besides the issues we are facing.
I visit his profile several times a week because I can't stand the idea of THIS child being left behind...so I am writing this plea for him.
There's a lot I want to tell you. He lived with us for a month. WE LOVE HIM. He *really* needs medical help. His jaw is out of alignment very very badly, so much so that when he eats and drinks, it comes out of his mouth.
1. He sat on my lap every single night and listened to Gospel music. His favorite is "Amazing Grace." He knows when it's a Christian song, even if it's in English and he says "Christo!" Somewhere, someone has told this child about Jesus.
2. He was calling me Mama from day one without me telling him to. When I had to send him home, he was crying so hard, they were not going to let him get on the plane.
3. He cried when I went anywhere and actually got insanely upset ( he self harmed) BUT...This is actually a good thing, because he bonded with me so easily.
4. When he first came, if he got hurt, he would keep smiling and tried to take care of himself as if they are not allowed to have feelings, but after awhile, he cried and came to me.
6. He is a very fast learner, having learned the English ABCs in 3 days. He has mad building skills.
7. He bonds with women and sees men as a big brother and likes to harrass them.
8. He is a vegetarian.
9. He is a food hoarder and also hoards other things. I worked with him on this and it got much better.
10. His sense of humor will keep your family laughing, but also, he is sometimes very very naughty.
10B. You HAVE to give him work to do or he will get in trouble. He LOVES working. He can not take a minute of boredom or he starts rocking.
I wrote about him extensively while we were hosting him and I am here to answer questions to anyone about him. He never had a seizure while he was with us.
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE CONSIDER HIM. HE IS SO WORTHY! https://reecesrainbow.org/1377/nolan117






I am not advocating for any program or adoption facilitators JUST for this child.  





Wednesday, February 28, 2018

My Thoughts on Recent Events







I love History-my favorite time is World War II.  That time frame and what led up to it, fascinates me.   But recently I read "Killing England" by Bill O'Reilly.   It's been awhile since I've read about the Revolutionary War.  Of course I studied it in school and in college as most of my generation did and have a basic understanding of the time frame.

But reading this book, reminded me of how brutal the war really was.  As I read of the decisions of  General Washington and other leaders it made me think.   Washington would hang deserters, no appeals...  he pushed his soldiers to the limit, and himself also.   While in most battles, the losing soldiers were often killed rather than taken prisoner.  This war went on for five long years.

Do we have that same kind of strength today to fight against an enemy?  Unfortunately I do not think we do.  If our generation had to make a choice to either stay with an unjust government or rebel, this generation would not have the courage to stand up and fight.  It would cost too much.

When I look around, I can not imagine our younger generation being able to stand up and fight like America did in WWI or WWII.  I see young men who are not growing up to be men but rather just older boys.  It's sad to me.  Oh there are some who are growing up to become men but so many who are not.

This all ties into what I'm seeing in social media following the shooting in Broward County Florida.
For the record, I feel the FBI, the Broward County Sheriff's Office and the Broward County School District are responsible for not stopping this attack.   Sheriff Israel is the absolute worse sheriff and I am glad the Governor has the FDLE investigating his office!   I believe Sheriff Israel with be relieved of his duties!

After the shooting I wrote this on FB

"Y'all know I grew up in the South in the 70's-80's. Every home I visited had guns in it. My home had loaded guns in it and I was instructed not to play with them so I didn't. All my relatives were hunters and they all had a lot of rifles and pistols in their homes. At my school Taylor County High School many boys drove trucks with gun racks full of rifles in them to school. It wasn't even something you thought or worried about. What has happened in these few years to change things?
What I truly believe has happened is the culture has changed-it's not guns. Unfortunately there have been so many changes.
Growing up most people I knew came from a two parent family. They were taught to respect God and most people I knew regularly attended church with their family. Were they good Christians? Maybe not maybe some people had to sow some wild oats but they had a foundation that seemed to keep them from straying too far.
They were taught respect for adults. When I was growing up we might've been doing a few things we weren't supposed to do but we didn't talk back to authority. We respected teachers and Administrators and we respected law enforcement and other kids' parents as well as our own.
There was no one on a bunch of medication. We had PE and recess and after school kids played outside and got out all their frustrations and stress by running & playing. They didn't sit inside on computers or watching television or playing violent video games. There was no double lives being led on the Internet or being in Facebook groups the no one knew of.... There was no isolation-
Everything was out in the open other parents looked out for you & would call your parents in a heartbeat and tell them if something was going on. And your parents would deal with it. If you got in trouble at school there was no coddling or blaming the school - you got in trouble at school you got in trouble at home.
Back then they were clear gender roles. Men were taught by their fathers or other relatives as well as teachers and religious figures on how to be a man and handle their feelings. They were taught what being a real man was and they didn't have such an underlying anger toward society. I think every young man I knew growing up believed that his life was going to be even better than his parents lives were - they were taught to focus on building a life not destroying society.
I feel societies changes are what is causing these type of shootings. Of course the root cause is sin and the devil. But that restraint that was in society for so many years is gone. I doubt it will ever come back.
I am so sorry for the families that grieve. I always worry about my children when they are at school, college, or a busy crowded place. The sad thing is my husband works in a prison and I am often reminded that he is probably safer going to work than most people are or most students going to school!
I think immediately every school needs to focus on Security and training their staff on how to deal with this type of situation. There was a coach yesterday he gave his life protecting students. If only he would have been allowed to carry a gun perhaps he could have stop this before it escalated!! God bless him for his efforts to keep the students safe. The college my oldest son goes to has recently authorized staff who go through a rigorous training to carry concealed in order to protect students. I'm very grateful that the plan is in place as well as having armed law enforcement on the campus.
My hope and prayer is this actually will cause a real conversation not a anti-gun reaction. Guns of been around for as long as this country has been a nation and it's only been the last few decades that this has begin to happen. It's not guns!"



Our society has changed so much in my lifetime.  The fact we are having shootings in schools, churches or stores show a break down in society.  I read a statistic that of  75% of school shooters were from fatherless homes.....     And if I were to guess, I'd guess most of those kids did not grow up in church.  Last night Shad and I watched a documentary on a British citizen who became a fighter for a Jihadist army.  One thing I noticed was his father was not in the home and the mother said she raised her children without any religious training.   But that young man was seeking a relationship with strong men and some type of belief system.  

What can we do?  I guess I don't have much faith that society will change and people become responsible and have respect for each other and authority.  That sounds awful but it's truly how I feel.  

Maybe Old Fashion ideas is what we need & it needs to start in the home.  If it starts in the home, it will become evident in society.