Monday, May 4, 2015

Champs!




 
 
 

 
 
 






The group, Rhythms of Grace that Shad is in won FIRST place in our state competition for Fine Arts!  Not only did they win first place, they got a PERFECT score!   Now they will go to Nationals this summer.  The kids did a great job practicing and their band leader Rodney brought it all together.  He is an awesome teacher!   We are proud of the kids!!!!!!  (To be honest, I'm proud and a bit shocked LOL  Shad had never played the marimba till February of this year!   And he really didn't practice like he should have LOL!  But I'm happy for them)
 
 
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Tomorrow Selah has hip surgery at 12 noon at St Joe's in Tampa.  Her things are packed and ready thanks to her nurse.  I have a bag packed too.  I'll play it by ear, it's hard to coordinate everyone's schedule so I'm not sure if I'll stay the night, stay at a friend's house in Tampa or come home.  Jon is working but getting off early to pick up Shad and so that Steve can go to work.    We expect her to be in from Tuesday- Friday or maybe even Saturday. 
 
Please pray for Selah and for her doctor so that he will have wisdom to know exactly what to do so Selah won't have this issue again! 
 
 
 
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If you'd like to go to my FB page
 
 
And LIKE it (only need 18 more likes t hit 500)
 
You can see about 70 pictures from three years ago as we did our "paper chase" the day before picking up the girls from the orphanage.  Most of our time was in Donetsk  so sad that now that city is bombed.
 
 
 
Tomorrow is our three year anniversary of our "gotcha day"  Bittersweet!


Saturday, May 2, 2015

Therapy Time

Back at the library with my baby boy!  He is sitting here listening & watching the GemIIni program repeat over and over.  He loves it.  I'm praying that this will be the key that opens his little mind to speech! 

With our three little ones, we have tried everything there is out there to help them whether it has been various therapies, doctors, medicines, and now this.  Sam has been in therapy since he was 2 months old.  We've tried different kinds over the years.  He even got to go to Dolphin Therapy in the Florida Keys for a week before he had the eye implant.  With Selah we have focused on fish oil and Hyperbaric Oxygen Therapy.  With Sarah it has been more therapy and consultations with various specialists as well as swimming lessons. 

Do I know that any of this has helped?  It's very hard to say with therapy since each child's base line is different and there is no real way to compare children but I feel it has helped.  I don't regret anything we've tried with any of the children.  Our three little ones have significant issues, they will never have a "normal" life but we want them to have the opportunity to have a life that is as stress free as possible.  So if Sam can enjoy the therapy and gain some words/understanding then it is worth it.  Of course we are hopefully that this program might be a key for unlocking language for him.

One thing over the years that I'm very adamant about is, that therapy should be enjoyable for the child.  I've seen children cry and scream in therapy.  Thankfully my little ones have almost always enjoyed whatever therapy they were in.  If they didn't, I probably would not keep them in it.  Also I've been super careful with choosing the children's therapists.  I've had some bad experiences especially in the public school system but overall most therapists have been good. 

One thing I'd like to try with Sam and Sarah is horse therapy.  I don't know of any services near our home.  Maybe one day we can try that.

I don't feel the need to make my kids "perfect"  I think they are perfect the way they are!  But I do not want to be lazy if they need special help in an area.  Most of the time I feel if the child is going to do/learn something he will without a lot of help but I want to give my little ones all the opportunity to learn things "their way"   It's a fine line to walk. 

I think when Sam was a baby, I did try and "fix him" with therapy BUT I still do not regret it.  I see the things he can do that Sarah can't do (I compare them because they have the same diagnosis with Peter's)  and I wonder if Sarah had had therapy, maybe she could do more things that would help her enjoy life more. 

But if my little ones never change from where they are right now, it's still fine with me!  I'm not going to love them any less or love them any more if they learn new skills.  But at the end of the day, I want to know I gave them every chance in the world!!!!!!

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Well I hope everyone is enjoying their weekend.  It is gorgeous weather here in Florida.  We are going to go out some this afternoon.

Shad is in Orlando at our church's denomination's Fine Arts Competition.  He is in our percussion group.  He has learned to play the marimba.  They did a great job in competition and will learn today if they make it nationals. 

My kids keep me hopping!  From the oldest getting ready to go to college in three months, to Shad in Fine Arts, Sam doing this new learning system, Selah having surgery on Tuesday.......everything is so different with each one I just have to pray for strength and wisdom!!!!!!

Friday, May 1, 2015

GemIIni program

What a busy week for us!

Recently I've been hearing a lot about a program called https://www.gemiini.org/  Gemiini.  It is a program to help non verbal children speak.  We decided to take the plunge and buy it for Sam, as well as a tablet.  It's a bit hard to use for us because of our horrible internet service but I've just been sitting in the church with him, listening to the video over and over again.  It is a totally web based program.  I did get it to work some in our home last night but it's been a challenge.  Today I have Sam with me at the library in a study room. 

Sam is quite engrossed in it to say the very least!  Basically it's like a Baby Einstein video with all the music taken out and all the pretty pictures LOL.  It shows a lot of close up on people saying a word over and over and over and over and over again.  Pretty much purgatory for the parent!  Yesterday I had such a headache I thought I was going to puke!  I'm so thankful that Sam is so engrossed in it.  The sessions are lengthy-for some reason I think they are 40 minutes each.  AND the child is to view it 40 times....yep...40times before you can move on to the next video.  We are on view #5.....we have a looooong way to go. 



Here is Sam last night
 
 
 
 And today at the library
 
 
 
He is quite adorable isn't he?  So intense on watching this.  If this works.........
 
 
Yes we are going to try it with Sarah and Selah too.  First I wanted to work with Sam on it..  I'm not quite sure I could work with more than one child on it at a time at this point.  Sam does say NO and Mama and sometimes Dad.  He has a larger understanding of receptive language than the girls.  I won't work with them until we move because of the internet issue. 
 
 
I'm not even sure we are doing it 100% right.  In the beginning it's actually supposed to be used at mealtimes.  We can't do that because of the internet issues we have, so I'm just playing it over and over as much as he'll take.  Luckily he likes things  repeated  over and over again.  I do NOT! 
 
 
So in all of this, is our hope and prayer that something will unlock language in Sam.  I felt a real sense of urgency to get him started on this.  I can't imagine it working on a completely blind child.  I'm going to try it with Sarah but I can't imagine it working.  I worry about Sam's sight all the time, it's in the back of my mind at all times that he could lose his sight.  He has a fragile grasp on his sight, so many things working against him all the time, his body works against him.  If he could get some real speech, I think it would make life easier for him especially if he ever completely loses his sight again. 
 
So pray for me that I can work with him and get him started in this.  It's quite an undertaking for a mother of five! 
Next Tuesday Selah will have hip surgery.  I'm nervous about that too.....
 
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Well my husband has been enjoying Molly our OUTSIDE  (lol) dog.  He has been taking her out in the woods with him every afternoon and she loves it.  The other day they came up on three wild hogs and she wanted to go after them.  THEN as they were walking, a big 7-8 foot gator went across their path!  It came out of the woods on one side and went into the water on the other side.  Molly wrapped the leash around Jon- she was a bit spooked.  He said he couldn't tell who was protecting who at that point:)  The next day they spooked up some hogs again and he had to hold her back from chasing them.  She is becoming more vocal now that they go out in the woods.  She will bark at cars after they get back home.  She loves riding shotgun and sits up high so she can see everything. 
 
 
Well we are having beautiful weather here in Florida!  I want to be outside not stuck in the library but here I am!!!!
 
 
 


Monday, April 27, 2015

Indoors or Outdoors?

It's  joke with me and some close friends about how "controversial" I am.  It seems I look at the world at a different angle than most even in Christianity.  My husband calls me the "Ann Coulter" of the evangelical world LOL    However I never imagined that my recent post about our new dog Molly would become controversial! 

So imagine my shock when I get two politely worded comments about Molly being an outdoor dog.  I'm sure no one meant anything mean by their comments, I'm more shocked by the comments than anything.  I was told that  by the first  commenter "hope she could be an inside dog and a family member"  the other one cited our extreme weather in Florida & the dog's emotional needs for the reason Molly needed to be an inside dog.  As far as the heat goes, I was raised in Florida without AC and I lived!

To the first writer I explained I wouldn't have an indoor dog because of my little ones who don't see nor understand.  Since I can't be three places at once, I can make sure they wouldn't be hurt by a dog.   The second writer understood that but "hoped I could find a home for her so she could be an inside dog" 

Please understand I didn't mind the comments, I was just surprised. 

You know I was raised COUNTRY!  I'm not sure when I first saw a dog INSIDE but I'm sure I was shocked when I did.  We had dogs, tons of dogs, all hunting dogs that my uncle took out with him hunting.  The only animal I remember that was allowed in the house was the baby pigs if they were too small or it was too cold for them.  Told you I was country!


In all fairness Jon and I  did used to have a small dog named Sweetie, that of course "found " us one day.  We did keep her in the house.  Once we adopted the girls, she was done with us.  She spent most of her time under my bed.  When the accident happened, some friends of ours were watching her and Brownie and they kept Sweetie once we got home.  I could not have a dog in the house with all the kids and then the nurses.  She spent the last couple of years of her life being pampered by an older couple who spent a lot of time with her.  We never really liked having her in the house but she was small so it wasn't too bad and we only had 2 kids when we got her....

So I asked my FB friends what they thought....LOL no surprise I got 36 comments  all agreeing with me.  Some shared some cray cray (ie crazy) stories that happened to them.  One friend had two large greyhound/lab mixes and got an anonymous letter from a neighbor about how heartless they were to keep these huge dogs outside.  Another got a visit from animal control, thanks to a neighbor,  when she put out some cat food for a stray.  She was told she'd have to bring the cat in or quit feeding it.  Some said their local SPCAs wouldn't adopt out an animal unless it was going to be a strictly indoor pet.

So is the world gone MAD or what?

Animals....are just that, ANIMALS.  I love our pets.  All my life, I've rescued cats and dogs, even a few woods creatures..  We've found homes for so many, we've paid to get many cats spayed/neutered.  Any animal we accept we are responsible for until we can find a home for it.  I try and help friends find homes for animals...  I feed feral cats.  Heck when we were in Ukraine we found a trio of kittens and actually found homes for them!  So I figure I can say this! 

But at the end of the day, animals are animals.  They are not humans trapped in an animal's body.

"Giving human characteristics to animals, inanimate objects or natural phenomena is a human trait called “to anthropomorphize.”    Anthropomorphism carries many important implications. For example, thinking of a nonhuman entity in human ways renders it worthy of moral care and consideration Anthropomorphism in reverse is known as dehumanization — when humans are represented as nonhuman objects or animals"

Can I say I think we in America tend to anthropomorphize animals, to render them as worthy as a human. 

I see it on FB all the time.  I have friends who put up pictures of orphans and I have friends who put up pictures of abandoned or abused animals.  (I tend to put up pictures of both)  Guess which pictures get the most "likes & shares"?  Did you guess the animals?  You are right.    What is that saying about our priorities? 

One friend suggested that in America we have such a culture of death thanks to abortions that many feel a sense of guilt so they would rather "protect" animals.  I don't' know for sure but it is an odd thing. 

I don't want to see any animal abused but I'm not too worried about our dog.  We have a big fenced in yard where we live now and our new home will have one too.  She has a nice big doghouse, that I put  pine chips in to make it soft and comfy.  I think most animals are much more happier outside and much less neurotic.  I feel sorry for dogs stuck in a house or even worse, in a crate, all day while their owners are at work!  How boring that would be!   I know people who crate their dogs all day long.  What kind of life is that?  A prison!!!  

My animals are for the most part outside.  We have two cats that sleep in the house at night, one of them the Mama cat of our cute kittens BUT when we move everyone is going out!  Our two adult cats rarely use the poop box because most of the time they are outside.  I don't like a big mess in the house and I figure animals have been outside for many years!

So whether you believe God created the animals (like I do) or that they evolved....you've got to agree with me that they are suited to be outside.  They respond to heat by shedding their coat, and to cold by growing a thicker coat.  It's NATURAL! 

So anyhow love your pets, enjoy them and treat them good but realize they are not human, they do not necessarily think the same way you think and have some common sense!!!!!

Sunday, April 26, 2015

Sarah's Covenant House-India


Our church youth group is getting ready for their Fine Arts District competition.  This year I have a son in it:)  Shad is playing the marimba.  This is a picture from practice last week.  They go to district next weekend.  Shad's excited about it.  Last year they made it to Nationals.  He has learned to play the marimba in two months.  I can barely say the word LOL much less play it!











I know I bring up many needs and good causes on my blog....  One that is near to my heart is Sarah's Covenant House in India.  We sponsor a beautiful 2 year old blind girl that is part of their program.   As part of the government crack down on child sex trafficking, the government asked all programs to quit showing pictures of the children's faces.  Since they complied with the government's guidelines their donations have dropped sharply.  I'm planning on giving more this month and was able to send in a donation that came in for orphan care through our church/my blog.  If you can give to them, please consider.  They do such an awesome job working with handicapped children.  In fact I often learn some pointers by reading some of their blogs!

 www.tinyurl.com/sch-paypal-link

 
 
Thanks for giving!  If we all do a little, it equals up to a whole lot!
 
 
 

Saturday, April 25, 2015

Nepal Earthquake & Hello Molly




So terrible to see this awful news of the strong earthquake in Nepal.  If you'd like to give to help out the affected families, Convoy of Hope is a great organization.  They are the humanitarian outreach of the Assemblies of God and give aid in the US and aboard when disasters strike. You can read about their work and donate at the website below.

http://www.convoyofhope.org/blog/features/disaster-response/responding-to-the-nepal-earthquake/




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We have a new family member....
MOLLY



My son's friend rescued her a few months ago.  She was a stray and was being attacked by pit bulls.  He took her and got her all her shots, and got her fixed.  He and his wife are moving and found it hard to keep her so we are adopting her.  At first we were just going to babysit for a few weeks.  We got her yesterday and she cried all night outside.  We'd put her on a long chain because we didn't know if she'd try and get out of the fence.  Evidently she did not like the chain.  We worked with her today and she is just the sweetest dog.  She was all worked up yesterday and didn't know what was going on but she is calm today and totally fits in:)  She doesn't chase the cats and listens to us.  Since Molly is only about a year old, we look forward to a long time with her:)

My husband named her after a dog he had when he was a boy- Molly.  I sure miss Brownie girl today, but I think that Molly will be another dog for our family to love.

I love animals, if you hadn't picked up on that yet.....  And I don't know if "all dogs go to heaven" but I'm awfully glad for the animals I've had in my life.  They have all been friends to me and companions.  It's never easy to say goodbye to one but it is easy to say hello:)  So Hello Molly and welcome to the family!




Shad and the kittens
they are only 6.5 weeks old ( had to check with the calendar) and they already are all litter boxed trained and eat on their own.  I feel like they are super cats!

Thursday, April 23, 2015

Ethiopia



 
Today I want to share with you about a family that impacted my family in a BIG way and they are impacting many through their humanitarian efforts.
 
I first met Kristen over the phone.  She worked for the agency that had Shad's file.  I called her because i was so concerned about the little blind boy's picture (Shad)  We talked for awhile and I told her to give my name and number to whoever adopted him because I thought I knew a doctor that could help him.
 
A few weeks later I got a call back from her asking US to consider adopting him!  At the time Sam was little and very sick and I had just resigned my career job to stay home with him.  There was NO way we were looking to adopt....yet she asked us to consider.  So we did...consider and called her back and said we'd start the process ONLY to hold his case in the US.  We doubted that China would be crazy enough to approve us.  I can remember her telling me "God can make a way"  And honestly I thought it was easy for that young girl to say that, she didn't have a sick child....  Well she was 100% right...God did make a way.
 
Truly if any other social worker/case manager had talked to us in the NATURAL we would not have adopted Shad.  Our world had just been turned upside with Sam and we truly had no money and it looked like the absolutely craziest thing in the world for us to do and there were MANY people who felt free to tell us we were crazy but not Kristen.  She was always steady and just believed it would work out.  That's the kind of person I needed to be working with at that time.  I'm so thankful in how God used her in our family's life!


She always believed in us and even more so believed in a BIG God who loves orphans and who hears their cries!  
 
So in 9 months time I was in China picking up our little China man. 
 
As time goes on we lost touch, Kristen changed jobs, then somehow I heard she and her husband were adopting two children.  Then we reconnected on facebook. 
 
Now I'm able to see all the projects they do for their children's home country of Ethiopia.   






this is their first project

http://aglimmerofhope.org/success-stories/adoptive-family-gives-back

 
 
And there was a well project recently that they successfully completed
 
 
Now they are working on 

https://secure.piryx.com/donate/UqI6DXkA/Mudula-Water/bachiraschool


Kristen writes "We've been raising money for 6 years now and the Lord just keeps blessing our efforts. Our current project is updating a school in Bachira, Ethiopia to a high school as there is not opportunity for additional education past primary school in this area. education is truly the key to breaking the cycle of poverty so our school projects are always so exciting! This one is in the actual village our two big kids are from, so it will be benefitting their actually family and friends living there!"



So can we help out again??????  Please visit this link  www.bachiraschool.com   to give!!!!!!



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Just an update on Ukraine....
we ( all of you blog readers) $1250 over the last few months to help our a humanitarian mission in Ukraine.  Sergey Kosyak is working hard in East Ukraine helping the refuges. Thank you all for what you do!!!!!!

And the well in Druz is working !!!!!!!!   So excited to hear that! 

There are many different needs in this old world, but if we all do something, it will help out many!  Thank you for being involved!!!