Poor Selah....we had a glitch in her shipment of formula. So last night she had to have the pedisure instead of the new more veggie based one. She obviously had a tummy ache all night long (she gets her feeds at night) she had awful gas and her heart rate was up. She did not sleep all night. her nurse gave her some meds, just over the counter stuff you can give babies for colic/gas, and it seemed to help. She pooped a lot today and now her tummy is back flat and thank God they finally delivered her formula today!!!! I felt so bad! So obviously she is NEVER going to get the Pedisure again! I'm so thankful her gastro doc changed her formula. Well I asked him for something so she wouldn't put on so much weight but little did we know that she didn't tolerate pedisure very good. This made it obvious!!!
Got a quick walk and breakfast in with my friend and then took Shad to the doctor. Since we adopted him, he has had issues with not being circumcised. He was not taken care of very well as a baby and he had some major problems when he came home. Our doctor, at the time, did not want to have him circumcised and since Shad was young, wanted us to really work on him, lots of warm baths and some topical meds. It seemed to help some but things were never good. Last year Shad told us he wanted to be circumcised. So I made an appointment to see an Urologist but then the accident..... as always some days were better than others for him..... Finally we got in to see the Urologist today and he took one look and said he would do it if we wanted him to. I told the doctor it was up to Shad and he explained everything to Shad. I asked if Shad didn't have the surgery and again try the topical meds, would he continue to have issues? The doctor said he thought he would...Shad said "Let's do it" The doctor loved Shad's attitude. Shad is looking forward to having it done and not have to deal with issues after he heals. He has such a good attitude as always and is thankful to have a date for the surgery....July 3rd. Please remember our sweet funny little boy in your prayers that he will not have any issues with the surgery and a quick recovery.
After the doctor's appointment we did some running around and he conned me out of THREE dvds at Sam's Club LOL! He really hardly ever asks for things and he was a mess...he kept saying I needed to buy them for him since he would have three days of resting afterwards:) I think he is going to do his best to cash in on this surgery:)
Shad is also going to get a covering for his bad eye. He was fitted last summer, the week we left for NY.....of course the doctor heard about the accident and actually left me a message right after it. So now we are rescheduling and Shad is excited about that too:) It's going to look great, just like his other eye. He does not have to have his eye removed as there is no reason to have it removed. He is beyond blind in the eye, it is basically shredded inside from whatever accident he had a young child. So this will fit onto the eye, like a giant thick contact. It is just cosmetic and we are not going to do that for Sam and Sarah as there is some pain involved. Shad is old enough to decide if it is worth it to him to be in pain for a little bit. He feels like it is worth it so we're going for it:)
I surprised my husband with a new bed today:) Our old one was 18 years old LOL. It's funny when we bought that bed, we bought it because we got a good deal on a king size after sleeping on a double for a few years.....this time, it was bought with our back/neck and shoulder problems being the main emphasis LOL! I picked out a firm one since that had seemed to help us when we have slept on a firm mattress. I'm am really hoping this will make a difference in my neck/shoulder issues!
And the best news....I've connected with Selah's sister's family:) I'm so excited to share with them what we know about the girls' shared history and to get to know them and their love for that little girl:) So thankful for a family to love and cherish her!!!!! God is so good!
So a busy day today. Tomorrow is going to be busy too.
I'm still loving all the messages and emails I've been getting! I love to know where you are from and how you found out about us. It's amazing! I'm trying to reply to every email and comment that is specifically an introduction from one of you. Believe it or not, sometimes it is hard for me to comment on my own blog! Thank you all!!!!
So now please remember Selah and now Shad in your prayers. I'm sure he will do fine, but ...... my heart is a little tender towards anything that has any slight risk at all for one of my children. We could get it done a lot quicker at a out patient center but I wanted it done at a hospital. It just feels safer....
Being a parent is a nerve wracking thing for me!!!!!
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I will for sure keep Shad in my prayers. What a brave young man you have there. Great news that you were able to get a hold of Selah's sister's family. I'm sure this will be a blessing for both you guys. Continued prayers for you all. Much Love from Thornton, Colorado =)
ReplyDeleteI really, really respect you for letting Shad be the one to make this decision. I'm very much an advocate of not altering the genitals of newborns. It just isn't worth the risks involved.
ReplyDelete1 in 500 newborn boys dies from complications due originally to the circumcision (an infection because the urethra was sliced, or the wound is not properly cared for, or adhesions form, or the baby is hemophiliac and the bleeding won't stop, or a slip of the scalpel requires surgery and newborns do not tolerate anethesia well). Hospitals use newborn foreskin in their burn units - it's a free donation. Since parents assume the tissue is destroyed, the hospital doesn't have to have any permission to use it. They need circumcision to continue, so the risks are downplayed and recorded as the end result, "succumbed to infection/anesthesia/etc."
Besides, it's HIS body, not mine. My family just could not understand my stance that my son's body was HIS, not MINE. I told them that HE could choose to be circumcised when he was old enough to understand, but that I would not do this TO him because it could never be undone. It's HIS body, his choice.
I've never ever heard of anyone dying from a circumcision and if they use the foreskin for a burn patient, that's great! I personally feel like God told the Jews to do it for a reason, and although it was a spiritual reason in the OT, there is probably a good reason for it to be done. We wouldn't do it to Shad at this point as old as he is unless it was medically necessary and only if he was on board with it. He is so "on board" with it, that he reminded me several times of the appointment because he is so tired of all the issues he has had for years with it. I know that if he had been taken good care of as a young child, he probably wouldn't have had any issues at all with it but unfortunately that was not his situation.
DeleteWe feel like Laura, we didn't have our son circ'd either, His body his decision--and really if you're going by a religious reason, Jesus dying on the cross eliminated the need to follow OT law.
ReplyDeleteHere's a page with the stats Laura mentioned http://www.circumstitions.com/death.html
BUT it sounds like you have done everything and have talked to him throroughly (Shad is SUCH a smart young man!!)
My only thought--and it's a touchy issue for sure!--is that there are sexual benefits to him (and his future wife) with a foreskin. But I can see that would be really difficult to explain to a child who thinks girls have cooties ;)
Praying for safe surgeries for him! I am so impressed with his maturity!!
Actually the doctor feels we've done everything we could to help him and without surgery he'd always have major pain issues especially when he was married!
DeleteI don't think of circumsion as having to do with the Law, just that even God's OT dietary laws make health sense and medical science has proven that a man who is circumcised has less chance of cancer in that area, so I figure God's idea is best. Of ALL the people I know and have known...I have NEVER heard of anyone dying from a circumcision! Or even having an issue except for one friend where the doctor did not take off enough and her son had to have it done a 2nd time.
Knowing you, I am quite sure you did everything! You are a mama lion ;)
DeleteThere are alot of debates about the cancer risk. I mean, God created it for a reason. There is no money in not circumcising. And provided a boy is taught how to care for it, and doesn't engage in risky behaviour as an adult, any risk would be negligible. We don't go lopping off girl parts *playing devil's advocate*.
I am definitely praying for safety--it is hard to be a mom when our kids need medical care!! xo