Saturday, October 13, 2012

A VERY HAPPY 23rd Anniversary!

Jon and I got married 23 years ago...we eloped and got married at the courthouse after knowing each other for only one month:)  We had slightly known each other in a class two years earlier then got reacquainted when I applied to work at the Talbot House where he was the director.  It was truly love at first (or second) sight.  I didn't really have alot of family and it just seemed right to us to elope:) Crazy but right.... Our life has been full and interesting to say the least....I've never been able to say we had a boring marriage:)  We've been all over the world, had crazy adventures, some hard times and some deep heartaches but we were definitely meant for each other.   We've learned to watch each other's backs and be a "unit" something that is really important in the ministry!!!  Marriage only gets better with time! 

Today we went to Niagara Falls, ate lunch at Denny's (we do that every year) and walked around on the American side.  We had planned to go to NF before all this happened and we don't have USA passports for the girls yet so we didn't bother bringing ours to go to the Canadian side.  NF is one of my favorite places on earth.  When I look at the majesty of it and the beauty I can not help but think how beautiful heaven will be!  It takes my breath away to see it and we've gone there now many times. 

We had so many nice surprises today.  When we got up, one of the other families who works for a certain bakery store had left us a couple of boxes of my favorite snacks!  And we had some cards and a gift card for Applebee's (which we used tonight)  And a cake from the RMH....BUT the biggest gift was from Selah!!!

Jon went over when we got back form NF.  He called me to tell me that he "bantered" with Selah.  Selah didn't really talk before the accident, she babbled like a baby.  But we would make her noises and she'd do them back to us.  Well today Jon made some of her noises to her and she opened her mouth and tried really hard to make them back to him.  This went on back and to for about 30 minutes which is the longest she has ever stayed engaged with us.  The longest time by far, the most before was maybe 5 minutes and she usually was upset when that was happening.  She had seemed to do something like this when she was upset over the last few days even with tears but this time she wasn't upset!  She was almost playful.  THEN she did something we have not seen since the accident.  She began to move her legs.  Now she has had movement called "posturing" which is not good movement.  It is movement that shows a person has terrible brain damage.  Basically all the limbs move at the same time in a kind of drawing up movement.  This was different, she moved one leg, then the other leg at different times and nothing else moved!  That was HUGE!!!!!  She has been much more alert just in the last couple of days too.

We are thrilled!!!!   To be honest, we are trying to stay balanced here, we've been told there could be slight improvements but not to expect any type of change from the cortex part of our brain, just maybe some changes in the brain stem activity.  This looks like above the brain stem to us.   One thing we had also been told with Selah since she already had development delays, it made matters much worse as far as possible improvement.  We had also been told since she went so long with no change, that made things even more bleak.  Usually if they don't see change/some recovery in 2 or 3 weeks after the accident , chances are the recovery is not going to come.   Doctors tell us these things, because that is the way it usually is, they see it all the time.  When I worked as a probation officer, I'd have folks say all the time that they would never get in trouble again and you knew....they probably would....  Why did I know it?   Based on experience...so that is why the doctors tell us these things, it's based on what they have seen and experienced with the brain and near drownings.  They don't tell us these things to upset us or make us cry but to prepare us for what the probable outcome will be.  I truly get tired of negative remarks about doctors, they are not all bad.   I can accept that diagnosis based on medical facts BUT I know we and so many others are asking, begging the God who created this Universe and everything within it, to touch and heal Selah.   When I looked at the scenery today, all I could think is that I know the One who created Niagara Falls....He walks with me through the valley of the shadow of death and I am not afraid!   What a comfort!!!!!

We still don't have our plans for moving Selah.  During this whole time, I've not been in a hurry for her to be moved back to Florida.  Our family is here together and where my family is, is home to me.  I don't' get homesick at all.  We feel she gets better health care here than she could in Florida.  Then last week when we thought we were actually going to go, I started getting ready to go and was looking forward to going home.  But honestly I have truly learned to be content and I'm fine, even living in this rather uncertain state...seems like I've been in that particular state alot this year LOL!  We had to be really flexible as we waited to go to Ukraine and then again once we were in Ukraine....then we waited on the kids' appointments to come up here....really having to "go with the flow"  So I'm fine with that...who knows what is going to happen now?  Maybe she will recover enough to go into the rehab hospital here...?    I do have some friends working on the situation in Florida and I have a few plans if that doesn't work out of getting the media and our congressman involved if necessary but hopefully it won't be necessary! 



We are just trusting God tonight....thank you for all your prayers, please continue praying for our sweet Selah.  She has a long way to go.....we are so thankful for the small steps she has taken and are just praying that they continue!!!!!!

22 comments:

  1. I can hardly contain my excitement over this latest development with Selah! Oh, this makes my heart so happy. It makes me wonder if she continues to make these tiny improvements, will the doctors consider letting her go home with round-the-clock care? I know your house will need to be prepared for that. But wow, I can see this happening soon.
    We will continue to pray here in Illinois.

    Samantha
    www.thestewreport.blogspot.com

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  2. This probably has to be your best anniversary gift yet!!

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  3. Did Selah get the gbutton covers? I hope you all like them.

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    1. yes she did they are so cute! thank you!!!!!! I am terrible at thank you cards right now! my aunt is probably turning over in her grave as she taught me much better LOL she doesn't have an leakage but it will be good to have once we get home. Her gtube has not had one problem, it seems like she was born with it lolol Great doctor who did it did a great job

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  4. What a beautiful love story! When you know, you know! Happy Anniversary!

    My husband and I just had our 20th last month. We met at college, one month later we were dating and by Christmas we knew we were going to get married--we just had to wait 3 1/2 years until we graduated!! We got married right around the time we had our first date. And we may not be world travelers but he's certainly lived up to his vows "in sickness and in health"!!

    I'm glad you had not only a lovely trip to NF but that Selah gave you a special gift that only she could give you!! I had happy tears in my eyes reading that :*) God is SO GOOD that not only did He bring you two together but He is working miracles on Selah. I am grateful the doctors are so good to you and that Selah is giving them a new perspective on "what to expect" :)

    Sleep well, dear friend. Praying for all of you.....I know that if I had my family with me, I could be anywhere as well. I am glad you're all together.

    xoxoxo

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  5. Happy Anniversary indeed. ^_^ I'm praying for Selah and am so excited to read about her new developments!

    Many Blessings,
    Darla

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  6. A VERY happy anniversary to you!! :)

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  7. Happy Anniversary....and how wonderful is the LORD...
    Selah is an amazing little girl and she has an AMAZING
    GOD holding her in His Hands. What a great anniversary
    gift...
    Love from NC

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  8. That is so wonderful...praise the LORD!! You and your precioius girl are in our prayers. Happy Anniversary--what an amazing gift for the 2 of you.
    love, the Adamson family

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  9. Wonderful anniversary gift for ya'll! <3

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  10. just wanted to leave a comment...sorry i have not left one before. i've been following your blog since the accident; i think i jumped here from another blog that told me about it. i've been praying for your family and for a miracle for selah since i've been following along. when i read your blog, i'm always reminded to keep praying. (no pressure to keep blogging, lol)

    anyway, i love your posts about theology. i agree completely with your views and also have always felt uncomfortable about the "believe it and claim it" philosophy as well. what about the philosophy that "God will provide" (yes, that phrase is Biblical, BUT when it is used to mean that He will provide financially always when we are attempting to carry out His will)?? for example, if a Christian is attempting to adopt, using the verse about providing to mean that He promises to provide the funds??? He simply does not always provide for "earthly" needs, even when those needs seem "holy". bills do go unmet, even for Christians and even for bills for adoptions and missions, etc. that is a fact. how do you explain to the Christians (who claim that promise and use it to say that God will always provide financially) why He sometimes does not provide in the ways we think He will? i don't know if i'm making sense or not. i love to talk theology and seem to think i'm on the same wavelength as you. i guess i'm looking for a way to respond to Christians who say "God loves the orphan and He loves adoption so He will provide the funds..." people said this to me during our adoption process (and yes, God DID provide and we knew the money came from Him and He got the credit, BUT i felt uncomfortable with them CLAIMING that they KNEW HE would provide every penny.) i'd love your 2 cents with this one.

    btw, have you read the book, "just do something"? i think it's called that. i'm thinking you would like it. i really liked the way it dealt with with whole issue of trying to figure out God's will.

    one more thing...i want to mention that i, too, lost 2 babies in utero-those were some of the darkest days of my life.

    anyway, just wanted to finally drop a comment. now i know why i never have left one...i knew i'd want to say too much. lol.

    praying for selah,

    tara

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  11. just wanted to leave a comment...sorry i have not left one before. i've been following your blog since the accident; i think i jumped here from another blog that told me about it. i've been praying for your family and for a miracle for selah since i've been following along. when i read your blog, i'm always reminded to keep praying. (no pressure to keep blogging, lol)

    anyway, i love your posts about theology. i agree completely with your views and also have always felt uncomfortable about the "believe it and claim it" philosophy as well. what about the philosophy that "God will provide" (yes, that phrase is Biblical, BUT when it is used to mean that He will provide financially always when we are attempting to carry out His will)?? for example, if a Christian is attempting to adopt, using the verse about providing to mean that He promises to provide the funds??? He simply does not always provide for "earthly" needs, even when those needs seem "holy". bills do go unmet, even for Christians and even for bills for adoptions and missions, etc. that is a fact. how do you explain to the Christians (who claim that promise and use it to say that God will always provide financially) why He sometimes does not provide in the ways we think He will? i don't know if i'm making sense or not. i love to talk theology and seem to think i'm on the same wavelength as you. i guess i'm looking for a way to respond to Christians who say "God loves the orphan and He loves adoption so He will provide the funds..." people said this to me during our adoption process (and yes, God DID provide and we knew the money came from Him and He got the credit, BUT i felt uncomfortable with them CLAIMING that they KNEW HE would provide every penny.) i'd love your 2 cents with this one.

    btw, have you read the book, "just do something"? i think it's called that. i'm thinking you would like it. i really liked the way it dealt with with whole issue of trying to figure out God's will.

    one more thing...i want to mention that i, too, lost 2 babies in utero-those were some of the darkest days of my life.

    anyway, just wanted to finally drop a comment. now i know why i never have left one...i knew i'd want to say too much. lol.

    praying for selah,

    tara

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    1. thanks:)

      I guess with the whole adoption thingy...we've had crazy supernatural things in both adoption when it came to finances. I really have incrediable faith when it comes to adoptions being funded. We didn't do any fund raisers or anything and all the funds came in for the girls in just 8 weeks, with Shad it was just as dramatic.... I think God DOES provide the $$$ for adoptons BUT not because of what we the parents do...BUT on the behalf of the child/ren! We certainly didn't "name it claim it" but we saw some amazing things happen. But I guess I wouldn't want to make a doctrine out of it LOLOL But at the same time we did a few things, we sold our older car so we didn't pay extra insurance or maintance bills on it ( then God GAVE us (through a friend) a brand new van!!!!) we had a VERY low key Christmas last year for the kids....so we did our part too.

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    2. Tara! Im an international student thus I can't adopt just yet. But I have read, given, prayed and journeyed thru the adoptions with many MANY MANY families. And I must say I have seen God provide for ALL of them. Yes the journey was HARD, STRETCHING and sometimes there were even delays but He never fails. Because His heart is for the orphan I've seen Him do it to so many than it has sent me to my knees in worship of Him. And please know I dont speak from a bias perspective coz I've never adopted. Linny from Aplacecalledsimplicity.blogspot.com wrote a 4 part series on this topic entitled He's not a deadbeat dad. And I pray it will minister to you.
      I'm in the midst of going into missions and my support raising has been SLOW and there are times I question, wonder and allow doubt to creep in but everytime I see an adoption fund met I stand amazed at Him. I have seen Him meet my needs. My school fees was paid in cash (coz I was an international student so no loans) semester after semester and I never really saw the money but there was always enough in dollars and cents every semester. And it was the year I gave the most to orphans, aliens and different missions. So from that stand point I know and truly know you can NEVER OUTGIVE GOD. No, I'm not a prosperity gospel gal. I don't have a rich bank account but I have a rich Daddy in Heaven and He is more than able to meet my needs if it's His will as and when and in the way He wants. Blessings

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  12. So happy! And Happy Anniversary to you, two! I know u don't know me but the Lord brings Selah to my mind for prayer regularly. A few days ago I was walking and praying and I prayed that Selah would improve, that she would be fully restored. And then I asked, but Lord, it would sure blow those doctors minds if she was even a little bit better than before. This confirms to me to keep praying this prayer!
    Love in Christ,
    Lara

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  13. Happy Anniversary Yvonne & Jon!! I'm so happy that you had a nice day at the Falls, and what a wonderful gift from Selah when you got home!! She has many many prayers going up for her as do you and the rest of your family! God is GOOD!!

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  14. Happy Anniversary to you two. My husband, who I met in late August, eloped in late Sept. and 2 weeks ago celebrated our 50th. Hope you can get there. Sounds like Selah is trying to communicate..I believe in miracles and feel this little one has a surprise for her family. You all are in my prayers daily and I know one day you will tell us that Selah was able to "talk" to you. Sounds like she is really trying. Stay safe and keep on believing and God will work his miracle.

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  15. Happy Anniversary!!! Sounds like you had a wonderful day too! :-) We continue to pray for you all. What great news about Selah! We'll pray she gets her gag reflex back too!

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  16. Ni hao!
    I grew up in an orphanage in ch;na. Just found your blog. And read your story. Happy anniversary.
    Praying that selan gets better and better!
    Blessings...

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  17. Yvonne and Jon, That was the very best anniversary present you could have had!!! We've been keeping Selah in our family prayers--but most of all, my Mom has been interceding for her from above. During her last days on this earth, shortly before entering into a semi-comma, she had said that her time to be called was getting closer---but the four little ones whose lives were at stake at that point had all their lives ahead. I'm talking about Selah, Nikita, Cheyenne, and Chloe. Nikita and Cheyenne had unexpected, beyond expectation improvements. I need to check about Chloe. Selah is now showing those responses that mean the world--that means recovery, restoration of her health, healing, hope. On Sunday, September 2, the next day after my Mom was called by the Lord, I was at WalMart catching up with the shopping, and crying as I was walking through the aisles. At that moment I asked my Mom again to intercede for Selah. My Mom was always pale all her life, with an extremely fair complexion and a pale rather than pinkish tone--but every time I look at her picture that pale face of hers lights up with a light that is not of this world, and her eyes look at us in that loving, tender way again. Yes, Selah will fully recover--you'll have your little girl at home again. Now, sorry for making a comment that is perhaps "none of my business," but--why not to consider a permanent move to NY? You don't risk getting blown away by a tornado there. Having younger children with physical challenges, and older ones who would not hesitate to endanger their own lives to save their younger brothers, I do feel much more at ease in RI than I did in San Diego. We moved in order to try to speed up the adoptions of Maximilian and Philip--but I wouldn't go back to CA at all. My license to practice law is from CA, and we have some family heirlooms in storage there--and are waiting to have the funds for transportation to RI. . . if that day ever arrives. But no, I wouldn't want to go back to CA at all, not even after the adoptions of Maximilian and Philip get finalized. Against all the bad publicity that NY often has, people tend to be kinder there than in most othet states. Your other kids will make friends easily--and the decision to do it for Selah will always bring you even closer together as a family. Sorry if I overdo it in giving advice. God bless, Lillian

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